have found the woman of your dreams. All is going well… Or is it? What are
the signs that your partner might be cheating? Read on to learn about some
things you can look for, or may have already seen and have been ignoring or
1. Phone Calls: Has she
been getting more private phone calls lately? Does she leave the room to talk
on the phone more than before? When you ask her about a call, does her response
seem genuine, or does it seem that she is not being truthful about who is on
the other end?
frequency of calls, time of day, tone of voice, or a change in text messaging
habits could all signify that she is cheating. When she answers the phone, does
she drop her volume or suddenly sound as flirtatious as she did when you were
first dating? If it seems like her phone habits are changing and you cannot
understand the changes, you may be witnessing an affair.
Are there many evenings out with the girls, when there were almost none just a
short while ago? When you ask her who she will be with, does her answer sound
bell, your wife may be going out, but not with the girls. If she was not
socializing with her friends with the same frequency that she is now, that is a
sign. If she is doing different things than she did with the girls in the past
(e.g., they always went to the movies, but now she is going out dancing), that
is a good indication that all is not what it seems.
3. Cologne: Does
she ever smell of different cologne, one that is more masculine than hers? Do
you ever comment on the new scent she is wearing, only to find that she does
not apply the same scent at home?
hers, but his. Do you by any chance recognize the scent as one you might have
tried in the past? And — hopefully, this is not the case — do you recognize
it as a scent one of your friends wears? What else there is to add, then?
questions about where she has been and what she has been doing? Does she avoid
looking you straight in the eye, when that was not an issue before?
challenging to look someone who knows you very well in the eye and tell an
out-and-out lie. If your wife is lying to you, there is a very good likelihood
that she will be looking anywhere but into your eyes when she does.
more than before? Have you suspected drug use, where there was none before?
Does she ever smell of cigarettes, even though she doesn’t smoke?
scenarios, there is probably a partner in crime. If she smells of cigarettes
and she does not smoke, you can bet that he does. You know, almost certainly,
that someone else is influencing her choices if these behaviors are taking
place when they were not happening before.
things you never did before or teaching you new tricks?
behavior are possible indications that there is a new influence in her life.
While there are other possible circumstances (e.g., she has just finished
reading some inspirational book about sex), the most likely scenario is that
she is getting fulfilled outside of the relationship or realizing that there
are new and different things that she enjoys and is bringing them into your
of these behaviors, the likelihood is that if there is more than one that rings
true, it could be a very good indication that she is cheating.
suspicions are correct. Once your eyes are open to the behavior changes, you
will spot them again and again and put the pieces together. From there, it is
up to you as to what direction you want to take in saving or ending your
will be most empowering for you in the long run, and that there will be hurt no
matter what happens.
loved one deceives us, but there are many times when we can weather the storm
and come out the other side stronger for having fought for love. And if it
seems that you cannot salvage the relationship, then know that you will have
learned from this and will be saved from a future of heartache and deceit.